Dear Grateful,
Do understand that I
write this from the perspective of a Sadist. Where I choose
the term, “punish” and similar words, I suggest you choose
an action that resonates with your Truth. I'm a Libra (The
Scales), so perhaps that also explains what I'm about to
say.
I have a
3-strikes-you're-out-rule for Myself because the first time,
shame on you; the second time, I was gracious and you set
yourself up for the Divine Torture I'm going to extremely
enjoy when/if you offend Me the third time!
My commitment is to the
Win-Win. I do My very best to keep My Karma in balance.
So, I do everything from the place of understanding that
everyone and everything in Our Universe is here to teach Our
souls lessons. When people disappoint Us - and they always
will - this is part of Our mutual lessons. It is not so
much the situation as it is what We do with the situation
that allows Us to grow towards Joy - if We
choose
to.
Now, here's the tricky
part: We are conditioned by religion, social mores (plural,
noun,
Sociology:
folkways of central
importance
accepted
without
question and
embodying the fundamental
moral views of a group)
& pressures, family “stuff,” etc., to believe that:
- evolving means to
deny anger and all of the feelings that are natural to
being disappointed, disturbed ~ "dissed" - which is
ludicrous and against Nature.
- We should somehow
be all-knowing so that when people disappoint Us, "I
should have" known better, seen it coming,
[insert
self-defeating statement here].
- it is either all
Our
fault
OR the other person's
fault
and We misunderstand personal responsibility. It's not
until We're adults that the concept of the dynamic of
the interaction between ALL parties gives Us the
opportunity to take a good look at Our egos (which shows
Us how We are in/out of balance with Self-Love)
presented to Us - if We're lucky.
Having said that, I
CHOOSE to permit everyone the opportunity to
show Me who they are and HOW
they are - which can often
be quite different in behavior due to how folks handle
stress and FEAR = False Experiences Appearing Real. And
because I embrace the fact that I Am A Sadist, and My
Motto is:
Don't start none, won't be none,
when they choose to operate outside of the Realm of Love and
Respect, I enjoy creating balance for Myself.
I had the great fortune
of meeting the Dalai Lama who told Me (I'm paraphrasing)
that Karma is whether You can sleep at night. I forgive
offenders because, as Jesus said, "they know not what they
do." And if they do know, they chose to receive the
consequences for their actions - consciously or
subconsciously - it's all in Divine Order for evolution. I
torture them because I do know what I'm doing to take care
of My needs and I own My responsibility for doing so. I
always choose to torture with the opportunity for evolution,
because I'm also taking care of
My Karma.
Some people think this
is enacting vengeance. I believe that the same way the
offender gave Me the opportunity to grow through pain, I am
the Agent of Karma in return by giving them the opportunity
to evolve however they choose to interpret the consequences
of their actions.
Forgiveness first begins
with Yourself because We have to undo all of that
"conditioning" that is designed to make Us wrong. Once I do
that, I find that I can choose to torture from a place of
giving love, rather than from a place of retaliation. I
prefer to reward rather than to punish. Sometimes, a gift
can have an amazing sting, but one always grows through
pain. Whether they choose to grow towards Joy is their
choice.
Hedonist that I Am
(I created My own religion,
Spiritual Hedonism™), I
choose Joy!
Resources For Forgiveness
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