October 1st, 20-MEleven!

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Take a little time to actually READ the goodies that I present for your enjoyment in My Newsletters.  I care enough to provide links to further enhance your understanding of the concepts that I present so that you can form your own opinions and We can indulge in intellectual stimulations together!

Do take a moment to click on the links in the Stimulating Quotes section to gain greater insight to who said what.  The links in this issue lead to some very interesting and useful sites, especially as September rolls around and school begins again...

NOTE from The Mistress Didi*: My events are NOT for everyone.  Only those of the highest integrity will fit in and are permitted to attend.  Nothing is more important than the safety and comfort of My Guests.  If anyone's behavior is offensive to any of My Guests, the offender will be ejected from the premises and banned from attendance at any and all future events.  Period.  Read You Won't Like My Events If...

For late nighters, 1/2-priced admission after 10pm!

The next SWIRL After-Work Meet & Greet Play Party where you can Blend your Fetish with your vanilla! is on October 20th and is one of My Birthday Charity Fundraising Celebrations! Every year for My birthday (whether the public is invited or not), I have a charity fundraising event.  I am a Gift-Giving Goddess who experiences the power and beauty of generosity and sharing as one of The Ultimate Pleasures.  This practice is one of the many reasons that I experience My Life as wonderful, though I continue to deal with many difficult challenges. This year, My Birthday Charity focuses on building clean water wells.  Please be so kind as to make a donation.  There is no such thing as a donation that is too small. I created SWIRL for you to be able to attend a PRIVATE, Fetish gathering straight from work, have good conversations with good people you want to Play with, enjoy nice wines and hors d'oeuvres, and still get enough rest to work the next day!  I believe in building the Fetish Community rather than solely seeking to profit from it.

Read the review of SWIRL 7/28 in Socially Superlative Magazine

What makes My events unique is that I design an exceptional Fetish experience to attend to your desire to entertain what thrills you in a civilized, adult environment that appeals to your senses and sensibilities.  My events are an alternative to the "loud & crowd" collections.  My MUSIC is specifically formulated for a multi-cultural & comfortable groove, played at conversational decibel levels, and to boost your endorphin flow for added pleasure! 

Again, there will be an Open Champagne Bar and healthy hors d'oeuvres through the evening!  (Read My Policy on Drinking at My Events.)  

SWIRL is NOT a pay-to-play type of party.  It is a REAL social gathering of Fabulous Fetishists!  SWIRL is a safe space to be your best and enjoy the best that others bring for BetterFetish™!

Special Admission is available for online purchasers beginning September 1st and there is a SPECIAL EARLY ADMISSION RATE - so don't delay!  It should go without saying, but I will say it anyway: your privacy is paramount and NONE of your information will be shared with any beings at any time.  Cash will only be accepted at the door.

ALL ATTENDEES MUST RSVP or you will be denied admission - no exceptions.  RSVPs will not be accepted after 12:00PM on October 20th - so, don't wait until the last minute. 

A few folks have been singing the low-funds-blues, so if you are experiencing a bit of a cash drought, contact My assistant to be of service at the party with opportunities to enjoy yourself. 

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And I have been VERY generous in how I've handled his sad, little creature.  I didn't have to "out" him; he did it himself with ludicrous attempts to destroy My Domain while unwittingly serving Me better than if I'd commanded him to serve! 

If you didn't know, this creep contacted everyone in his "friends" list on a networking site to warn them that I "threw [him] out for singing and talking to a beautiful woman."  he continues to stalk Me by contacting EVERYONE who responds to Me on forum posts with his nonsense (if only he'd put half that effort into becoming a better person).  Since birds of a feather flock together, folks who would believe a story like his are too stupid to attend any of My events in the first place.  So, while I believe that creatures like him are the reason that birth control should be free and sterilization mandatory, I couldn't pay for better service to My Purpose (not that I would have to)! 

The only sad things from this situation are that the 5 people who complained about him at the party had to endure him in the first place and that the "beautiful woman" was a newbie and has told Me that she is now too "creeped out" to attend any fetish events for a while.  This is a perfect example of how a distasteful individual is free to offend Us and discourage others from exploring the Beauties of The Fetish Lifestyle because no one has alerted the Community to his repugnance - and how he even made it into My event at all.  I accept full responsibility for not following My instincts - which I WILL do from now on - to deny him admission when he arrived in full, creepy fashion.  If being disrespectful and  "turditudinous" (My new vocabulary word) are his fetish, there are plenty of other events for him and his kind to indulge in. 

I will not allow admission to My Events to anyone who does not show the proper respect from the moment they encounter My Domain.  Period.  I love and respect My Guests and will do everything to ensure Our good times!

Lately, I feel I am unique in that money is not My god; nor do I produce events for the sole purpose of making money.  I design events for the enjoyment of communing with like minds and like energies.  When someone offends Me and Mine, I believe it is My duty to alert The Community to prevent others from being disrespected and, perhaps, harmed by the offender.  If more people were responsible to Our Community and to the people who trust Us, and if more people were brave enough to stand up for what's right against wrong-doers, participating in Our Community would actually be more pleasant instead of a constant flow of dealing with situations where one hopes to avoid having to navigate around "gruesomes".

I respect The Fetish Lifestyle and I believe in having integrity in The Scene.  Sadly, far too many do not agree with having honorable intentions and participate in lying, thieving, maligning, and attempts to outright sabotage not only Me and Mine, but many others who make contributions to the ability for Us to enjoy Our Lifestyles.  Eventually, the barbarians begin to fight amongst themselves in their quests to build monopolies as they run out of people to screw over.  You see this happen all the time.

Over the years, I have received "flack" from people who think that I should keep incidents of bad behavior between Me and the offenders to Myself - probably, because telling others threatens their safety zones for exposure of their own bad behaviors.  Fortunately, I am clear that I will continue to maintain circumstances for the utmost safety in My Domain and protect My guests as a good Hostess should. 

Unfortunately, covert and disreputable habits are what is to be expected as the norm these days (and this is one reason why people are rioting on Wall Street).  To permit atrocities to go unpunished by remaining silent only contributes to more atrocious behavior in the future.  I maintain that If you're not a part of the solution, you are a part of the problem.  Experience has taught Me that exposure (and punishment) of offenders is the best way to maintain the integrity of one's Domain and protect the people you care about.

So, take My commitment to excellence as an invitation to enjoy the safety of My Events and My Domain with intelligent people who have respect, class, and integrity.  And take this as a warning, if you are a troll in any way.  My responsibility is to enjoying The Best We Can Be and I will  be responsible to Our Community even if others are not.

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~    Ask Mistress Didi* in KinkEMagazine is where readers ask My advice on dealing with Lifestyle and Scene "situations" and I give it to you straight ~ and with the intention for your greatest health and happiness, of course!

~  I have compiled My Newsletter Archives where you can find wonderful info, fun-fetish tidbits, and a variety of tips from Me.  Check it out!

~  Kindly refer people to The Mistress Didi*s Articles which include The Importance of Rituals & Protocols,  Domme vs. dumme,  and submissive vs. substandard  Also, Easy Wig Care Tips!

~  My Free eBook:  How To Properly Present yourself To A Mistress is an effort to improve opportunities for submissives to meet Dominants and make a good impression.  It is also an excellent resource for Dominants to assist prospective submissives and those We meet on the roads in Our Fetish Journeys.  Download your "FreeView" and by all means, SHARE!!!  Pass it around!  Contact Me if you would like to obtain the Full Version.

I encourage more Dominants to offer training to those who present substandard behaviors to improve the state of The Scene and restore its tenets of respect and beauty.

~  PLEASE refer folks to My GoddessGlide™ ~ How To Walk In High Heels video so that We can appreciate the shoes without gasping at Frankensteinish-clunking by the people wearing them!

~  My Webcam Workshops: In preparation for private, semi-private, and group ClassicFetish™ Workshops via webcam,  am in the process of testing various web conferencing programs.  While I am doing this, I will conduct a few Workshops for a small, $10 donation to one of My Charities!  This is your opportunity to be charitable while gaining valuable knowledge!  Space will be extremely limited, so if you would like to take part during My test drives, click here and follow instructions.  Participation will be on a first-come, first-served basis. More Info...

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DOMMEconomy is the term coined by Mistress Clarissa, Benevolent Dictator, whose brilliance is matched by Her talents and beauty.   Mistress Clarissa, like those of Us who are thinkers and not just sheeple, is astounded by the audacity of hypocrites poorly hiding their true fetishes behind religion, politics, and economic terrorism while pointing fingers to make Us wrong for profit.  DOMMEconomy eloquently presents how supporting Dominatrices will boost the economy, which not only makes sense, in general, but makes sound economic sense, too!  Click HERE to Read
The Emily Post Institute.  As many people know from reading My You Won't Like My Events If... page, I am appalled by what has become the "norm" in The Scene: the total lack of manners and basic social skills that are presented by self-indulgent barbarians;   the total lack of respect for others fostered by the pursuit of kink and which is NOT a hidden display of one's lack of self-respect;   the acceptance of people pretending to be victims while blaming everything and everyone else for their failures with the intention of continuing to exhibit bad behaviors, rather than make the effort to become better people;
the total lack of concern for the integrity of The Scene by people permitting such behaviors to continue by not punishing these barbarians to prevent them from future offenses. Again, I maintain that if you are not a part of the solution, you are part of the problem.  I refuse to permit the slovenly and lazy to pollute My Domain with their expressions of self-loathing projected onto Me and Mine.  I do not care that barbarians accuse Me of being "the bad guy" - which is typical of the "make-wrong-game" to avoid personal responsibility that is never tolerated when one is an invited guest into My Domain.  I wish that more event producers would take a similar stance to ensure Scene integrity. Let's combat the epidemic of the growing lack of respect everywhere by educating Ourselves first, then Our loved-ones to the beauty of social etiquette.  By sharing the joys of expressing self-love via basic respect, We improve the experience of Life On Earth.  Visit The Emily Post Institute, consult the Etipedia Online Etiquette Encyclopedia today, and do your part.
Grammar Girl.  Since Our society is preoccupied with how We think We look to others, I am baffled by the fact that so many people do not take the time to research how to use proper grammar, etc. when writing their blogs.  And NO, you cannot call it "artistic expression" when you mistake there for their and your for you're.  The same way I desire for people to READ MY NEWSLETTER AND WEBSITES, I desire to show the same respect by reading theirs.  However, when I have to endure poor grammar, vocabulary, and misspelled words because people are too lazy to bother to look up correct usage - like I do My best to do - I am not going to read your writing.  Grammar Girl to the rescue!  With a searchable database, you will have quick and easy access to all of the tools you need to express yourself eloquently!
Defining Dominance Dominant vs. Top; know the difference! “Not every person who calls themselves a Mistress or a Top is actually Dominant. Mistress is supposed to be an honorific used by women who were slave owners but, now the title is being used by everyone who wants to sound cool and 'fetishy'”.  READ MORE...

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In case you're new here or haven't figured it out, the quotes that I choose
always represent the theme of the current issue.
This Issue's Theme is about empowering others with how I share the Joys of My Domain.

"Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."

~ Steve Jobs

"Deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil:
but to the counselors of peace is joy."

~ Proverbs 12:20

"You think him to be your dupe; if he feigns to be so,
who is the greater dupe, he or you?"

Jean de la Bruyere

"Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free." Jim Morrison "The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." ~ Ayn Rand, The Fountainhead

"The only true control is self-control."

~ Mistress Didi*

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