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October 11th & 18th Performance Art Parties ~
My Birthday Delights!

Special Project Performer
& Participant Interviews!

What Kind of Soiree Guest Are You? Quiz
NOW Interviewing Guests & Performers
for My Experiential Theater Project Soirees

Donate To My Birthday Charity Fundraiser, Please
10 Domina101™ Tips VIDEO
Free Tools To “Raze The Crazy”
How To Attend My Events
Applications Accepted
for Party Service Assistants

NEXT: Scene To Be Scene! My Experiential Theater Project Soirees October 11th & 18th Events

I’ve started something fabulous ~ again!  Last month’s ClassicFetish™ Experiential Theater Project was so much fun that I’ve been asked to create Soirees in 2 new locations!  So, to be fair, I’m rotating participants and interviewing more,  respectful Fetish Players, performers with Fetish Skills, and voyeurs who demonstrate safety in activities!©The Mistress Didi* ~ PartyDomme.comall rights reserved

  • NOTE:  if you missed My Complimentary Admission during the “previews” stage of My ClassicFetish™ Experiential Theater Soirees, you can now indulge in all-inclusive, participation for the ridiculously, generous amount of a $30 donation to My Birthday Charity.  Special details are provided to attendees. 
  • Again, this year, and every year, I choose to raise money with Charity Fundraising Events for My Birthday Celebrations instead of asking for frivolous gifts.  This way, We can all benefit from My Celebrations!
  • ©The Mistress Didi* ~ PartyDomme.comall rights reservedParticipation involves party perks (bubbly libations included all night) and some participants may receive expense reimbursement.
  • You MUST meet with Me in person before being considered for participation — My treat. Details sent to applicants.
  • AS ALWAYS, follow the carefully-written instructions I have taken the time to write to make sure that We proceed correctly from the very beginning.

I’m currently interviewing safe, sane, consensual, respectful, and cool:

  • Fabulous Skilled Fetishists who have fine-tuned their techniques
  • Performers of a variety of types
  • Voyeurs and Fetish-Fashionable Folks who are sociable
  • Assistants to serve and/or sub
  • Security to keep an eye out

 For an idea of what I mean by “fabulous,” check out A Few of My Party Pics.

 More info and Applications HERE.

 Participation In My Events

So, if you’re new here, I design environments with the kinds of Quality Fetishists who compliment My Energies. I always present events with class, grace, and excellence. (I wish that I could find other events on My level of enjoyments instead of always having to create them… — hint, hint!)

As always, My Events are chef-catered, in a completely-private (no walk-ins), clean, and comfortable, Midtown space with an elevator — and NO cameras anywhere. And, as always, to ensure that Quality Fetishists are in attendance, ALL ATTENDEES MUST submit a complete application. For this special, upcoming soiree, it will not be necessary to meet with Me in person prior to attendance — a quick, Skype interview (see below) will suffice. However, photographs MUST be submitted with your application for maximum security. No one will be admitted to My Private Spaces without providing the photo(s) I require or by adhering to special preparations (as provided for in the Event Application Form) — end of discussion.

My Photo Guarantee

For those who have issues with providing photographs: I am the ONLY person who will see and maintain records of Your photos and answers to the application questions. I personally guarantee that your confidentiality will be treated with the same respect that is given to everyone else who attends My Events and the way that I desire to be treated. What happens in My Domain, stays in My Domain. Providing your photos:

(1) ensures that EVERYONE is protected;

(2) keeps away the trolls and other “gruesomes;” AND

(3) ensures that MY DOMAIN — which includes MY spaces and ALL of the people whose trust I’ve earnedremains secure.

ALL applicants are carefully screened for participation. Do you realize that this means that I give the time to actually communicate with each and every attendee and potential attendee? Such is My Commitment to Excellence.

If My process is a problem for you, My Current Events are NOT for you. Stay informed by reading My Newsletters for future Events that you can attend.

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Prepare For My Events!

WARNING: Read My New Rules 2017

Please READ What’s Available & Not Available to understand how you may participate.

PartyDomme.comThe ONLY exception to this practice is IF you choose to engage My Event Design skills for an event(s) that meets your preferences and fits within My Respect Zone (see below). I will not participate in anything that offends My Integrity. Then, participants will be selected to fulfill the dynamics of your event.

Also read How Attendance Works and please pay attention to the Reality Check because if you want to play with The Divas, you have to step up to the privilege.


How To Attend My Eventsread everything – so that you don’t set yourself up for disappointment and, even more importantly, so that you don’t annoy Me. First impressions are lasting and once you show Me that you don’t care to respect the work and time that I put into creating Excellence in My Domain by following instructions the first time, you won’t usually get a second chance… That goes for Dominants as well as for submissives.

Please pay close attention to What’s Available & Not Available and How Event Attendance Works.

Soiree Attendance Contributions

UNDERSTAND: My current Soirees are even more private, elegant, and discrete than what I’ve made available to the discerning public in the past. Having grown intensely bored with the self-obsessed attitudes of “kinksters-playing-fetish,” I’m only interested in creating Soirees with the level of sophistication that I enjoy with Quality Fetishists.

Know that I do NOT make money from My Events and all proceeds go to My Charities. However, for small Soirees, participants contribute to costs for the Event. I don’t do “budget events” (there are enough of those out there) and I don’t hold My Events in venues with surveillance cameras…

If you want Quality, you must be willing to invest in it. So, if you’re on a tight budget, save up! And remember how many events remind you that you get what you contribute? Details are ONLY provided to members of My Mailing List and specifics are ONLY provided to pre-screened attendees.

Opportunities for NEW submissives & FUN Assistants

NOTE: I am NOW interviewing staff, assistants, and performers for My New Venture — CLICK HERE to apply! Performers, please prepare a short video (or detailed photo montage) of your performance to show Me. Staff, please prepare check-able references. All others, see below.

I regularly offer opportunities for cool people to experience the glories of My Domain and Events by offering their services to assist Me and My Guests. I am interested in “keepers” — people who will become part of the Fetish Family and be worthy of being adored — and this is the perfect chance to test the waters! These opportunities are NOT limited to submissives. Dominants, switches, “whatevers” are encouraged to apply as long as you can respectfully pay attention and follow instructions. And if I really like you, I may invite you to spend some time with Me in the sun-sea-sand!

  • I cannot stress enough how important it is to approach Me properly. This is one of the primary reasons I offer My Complimentary Fetish Etiquette Guide: How To Present yourself To A Mistress for free. READ IT before you ruin an opportunity to find what you’re craving in your fetish life. Not only are first impressions lasting, they’ll cost you if you’re missing simple, subtle nuances.

Soiree Assistants & submissives APPLY HERE. (Dominas please introduce Yourselves above).

I am continuing My interviews for hardcore masochists for private and public performances, Mentee training sessions, and Play — of course! Play, Play, Play! This opportunity may include all-expense paid travel. Hardcore Masochists APPLY HERE

Please note: I have planned Personal Play Soirees for new associates to join Me and My Fetish Friends. I will not announce these Events to the public, but new folks who vibe with Me will definitely be invited for decadent delights Mss. Didi* style!

Domina Play Soiree

See Above

DommeSalon LogoI create the kinds of events in the kinds of environments with the kinds of Quality Fetishists who compliment My Energies. I always present events with class, grace, and excellence.

My Events are catered, in a completely-private (no walk-ins), clean, and comfortable, Midtown space with an elevator — and NO cameras anywhere. And, as always, to ensure that Quality Fetishists are in attendance, ALL ATTENDEES MUST submit a complete application.  No one will be admitted to My Private Spaces without providing the photo(s) I require or by adhering to special preparations (as provided for in the Event Application Form) — end of discussion.

ALL applicants are carefully screened for participation. READ PARTICIPATION DETAILS ABOVE.

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If You are a Domina who wishes to join Us, please Introduce Yourself HERE.

Soiree Assistants & submissives APPLY HERE.

Please Donate To My Birthday Charity

Again, this year, instead of requesting frivolous gifts for My Birthday, I ask that you give the gift of clean water to people who don’t even have a well to drink from!  There are a billion people on the planet who don’t have clean water to even drink.  Think about this the next time you enjoy a shower.

Charity: Water is a non-profit bringing clean and safe drinking water to people in developing nations. Please Donate to My 2017 Birthday Campaign.  Every amount counts and makes a difference.

  • FYI, private donors cover the operating costs of Charity Water so that 100% of all public donations can go directly to water project costs!

10 Domina101™ Tips Video

I receive numerous requests for answers that I’ve already written and most of those answers are presented in My 10 Domina101™ Tips offering.  So, [snark alert!] since too many folks operate with the attention span of gnats and reading more than 140 characters seems to be an issue, here’s a little video that outlines the basics.  IF you want more detailed info, READ.

Domina101™ Online Lecture and Q&A

Domina101™ © The Mistress Didi* ~ www.PartyDomme.comWednesday 10/25/17 – 7:45-9:45pm: How To Receive What You Desire

The Domina101™ Collective Training via webcam and in person in NYC is in full swing! Enjoy a comfortable environment to learn, to share, and make personal connections to support Your Dominance. For more information, please read and Join Us!

Webcam Workshops

Coming Soon!

REMINDER: My Webcam Workshops and My Events are fundraisers for My Charities.x

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How You Benefit from My Workshops

There are 3 types of Fetishists:

~ “Fronters” go through the motions, thinking they look good “faking-the-fetish” while the people with skills silently dismiss them — well, usually talk about you behind your back;

~ “Punters” can kick the ball but that’s all the “game” they’ve got (unlike football kickers who are often the reason games are won). These folks maybe watched a YouTube video or even attended a FREE demo and believe they know all they need for what they want. This attitude makes for mediocre Fetish experience because there is no opportunity for the dynamic of giving & receiving and nothing beyond the plateau of what you limit yourself to believe is satisfying; and

~ “Artists” who have honed their skills and who not only look good doing what they do, they don’t have their energies “vampired” by the fakers-takers-shakers-noise-makers because they know what to look for and what to do for BetterFetish™ as a lifestyle.

EVERY time I conduct one of My Workshops, whether online or in person, I receive the same comments:

  • “Wow, I never thought of that before…”
  • “Oh, wow, that IS true…”
  • “I do/they do that and it’s not what I want…”
  • “I didn’t know that…”
  • That changes everything…”

One of the greatest benefits of having a Quality Fetish Family (do you have one?) is having access to a plethora of knowledge from real experience. True Fetishists share knowledge because We want more people to have Quality Fetish — especially with the inundation of attacks on Our Scene and Lifestyles from the money-mongering-pimp-mentality-exploiters and the “spawn of stink-kink” blemishing The Scene. As anti-social websites attract more undesirables, there is less that makes you feel, “Ahhhhh” and more “ugh-yuck!”

Even IF you REALLY DO have what you want, give yourself the opportunity to acquire new perspectives to learn what Y/you need to know to make your fantasies Fetish Realities. Make it easy on yourself. What do you have to lose (really think about that)? And you’ll contribute to My Charities while gifting yourself.

NOTE: if you’re having a ca$h-flow problem, contact Me with your useful skills and talents (NOT kinks).

All Webcam Workshops are $25, 2 hours, and include a lecture and Q&A. Privacy assured from checkout and throughout each event.

~~~> Workshops for YOUR Private Group Available

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What’s In Your Play Bag? 

Tips and Tools to include in your Play Bag for the safest and most excellent Play!

New Anti-Stalker Resource

I was contacted by a lovely person from CallerSmart who offered some most-excellent resources to add to My article, “How To Stop A Stalker.” CallerSmart provides an excellent resource on cyberstalking and what to do if you are a victim, along with a very, cool app that helps you identify mystery callers and block those you don’t want to hear from ever again. Definitely, check it out!

Upcoming Events

More Events Will Be Announced Soon

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