Fetish With Friends February!

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The Launch of AskMssDidi.com

Can you BELIEVE THIS? I was actually contacted by an idiot-attorney claiming that I was in violation of plagiarizing his client’s work which was copied verbatim from MY Ask Mss Didi* blog! It gets better: his client had the audacity to be in the process of suing someone else who’d also copied My original writing from MY blog! (My attorney has advised Me to say nothing more on this matter at this time.)

What’s ridiculous is that all that is required is a request for permission to use My Work. That is standard practice for use of anyone’s work in just about every medium. It is also common courtesy — which continues to be a lost social skill as losers continue to breed and have NO appreciation for kindness and gifts. So now, I’ve taken the steps to protect My Work and punish offenders, of course.

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My Current Events


Recently, I received an email with complaints from a typical, turd-tard who (1) offers NOTHING – not even something slightly pretty to look at, and (2) is another one who is too lazy to read About My Events before contacting Me to show his inferiority:

Mss Didi, [Y]ou need to do events that people are interested in and on weekends… No one wants to fill out forms to attend events… You make it too hard for people to have fun… You’re not going to make any money that way… i want…

For the past decade, I have designed Fetish events for one purpose: to find the type of Fetishists that I WANT to associate and Play with and create a Private Fetish Club. My Events are fundraisers for My Charities, not income. Anyone who has ever actually attended any of My Events knows for certain that the quality of venue, food, and beverages that I provide could never yield a profit from the price of admission. So, anyone with a brain knows that most of My events are paid for from “My pockets” and sometimes, with contributions from My Fetish Family. This is how people with class give soirees. Admission serves to boost what I regularly contribute to My Charities. Understand?

Far too many folks don’t know how to give so they can’t appreciate how to receive. Compounding the problem is that too many folks are accustomed to the “common events” and don’t know how to appreciate Quality, either. This is why I say everywhere:

My events are not for everybody and certainly not for just anybody.

It’s no secret that I am not a fan of the commonly available, “fetish” (a.k.a. kink) events that seem to be all that is offered in NYC these days — and it annoys Me that My best Fetish fun is not in My beloved, home city. History has shown that when I’ve created unique events like SWIRL AfterWork Soirees with a casual dress code, suddenly everyone else held events with similar formats. How I create and produce events now requires much more attention and care than average event producers want to do (if they even can). I’m interested in Quality, not quantity. A whole lot of nothing is still nothing.

One of the reasons that I don’t attend the common events is that I don’t enjoy My Fetish indulgences:

  • with people who don’t share My interests;
  • with people who don’t have respect for the environment and The Scene;
  • where I cannot have a conversation over disjointed, loud music played by self-obsessed DJs;
  • in a free-for-all type of setting and in places where I don’t want My shoes to touch the floors — I’m adamant about a CLEAN environment; and
  • while being bored by the same-ol’-same-ol’ stuff and people (who usually never bother to gain a new skill) over and over again.

So, I create My own events to enjoy MY WAY ON MY TERMS. AND I offer assistance as a consultant and/or event designer to others who wish to create their own events on their terms. You may request My assistance to design an event to your liking. You may even suggest ideas for some Fetish Fun by a polite email with your thoughts. But NO WHINING will be tolerated — especially about MY Events.


While the weather is cold and unpredictable, and while I’m traveling often, I am only having intimate, Domina Play Soirees for small groups of Dominas with 1 to 3 submissive attendants. Because I know Who We Are and the plethora of Our Talents, I’m not going to insult Us with subtandards (Read “submissive vs. substandard) to limit Our Enjoyments. ALL applicants are carefully screened for participation with the Exceptional Dominas I soiree with.

The ONLY exception to this practice is IF you choose to engage My Event Design skills for an event(s) that meets your preferences and fits within My Respect Zone (see below). I will not participate in anything that offends My Integrity.


Domina Play Soiree – DAYTIME CFNM Event
February 6 @ 2:00 PM6:00 PM

Domina Play Soiree – EVENING CFNM Event
February 17 @ 6:00 PM10:00 PM

Domina Play Soirees are DommeSalon™ socializers where I bring a group of intelligent, talented Dommes together for community building, networking,  and a lucky sub or 2 to serve Us.  These are not money-making events; they are designed for Us to meet people We can actually like in The Scene!  (And My Events are fundraisers for My Charities when appropriate.)

I have 3 opportunities for NEW DOMINAS to join Us so that We may expand Our Domina Play Circle while enjoying submissive pleasures!

If You are a Domina who wishes to join Us, please Introduce Yourself HERE.

submissives who wish to join Us, read below.

SO FAR, 2 Domina Play Soiree Events are scheduled with 2 different groups of Dommes. I am enjoying the company of some Friends from Down Under who are My kind of Wild Women! More Play Soirees (working on one for early March — see below) may be announced to My Mailing List as they arise.

Coming In March

©Mss Didi* ~ PartyDomme.comI’ve been engaged to produce A Gentleman’s Domina Tea Time in early March for a visiting submissive who would like to meet for tea with select Dominas prior to a PlayDate that I’m organizing for him. See how that works?

Dominas who are interested in joining Us for Afternoon Tea and subsequent Play Soiree in early March, please Introduce Yourself HERE.

Opportunities for NEW submissives & FUN Assistants

Note: Several applicants have already been interviewed and are in the process of being matched for compatibility with specific groups of Dominas for Play Soirees. If I have not responded to your application, please be patient. If you have not followed specific rules (e.g., no nudity in photos), I will not respond to you at all and suggest that you try again, properly this time.

I regularly offer opportunities for cool people to experience the glories of My Domain and Events by offering their services to assist Me and My Guests. I am interested in “keepers” — people who will become part of the Fetish Family and be worthy of being adored — and this is the perfect chance to test the waters! These opportunities are NOT limited to submissives. Dominants, switches, whatevers are encouraged to apply as long as you can pay attention and follow instructions. And if I really like you, I may invite you to spend some time with Me in the sun-sea-sand! Soiree Assistants & submissives APPLY HERE (Dominas please see above).PartyDomme.com

I am still interviewing hardcore masochists for private and public performances, Mentee training sessions, and Play — of course! Play, Play, Play! This opportunity may include all-expense paid travel. Hardcore Masochists APPLY HERE

Webcam Workshops

Coming Soon!

right-arrowREMINDER: My Webcam Workshops and My Events are fundraisers for My Charities.x

Why Take These Webcam Workshops?

Well, you don’t have to — you can always read everything I’ve graciously provided for free on AskMssDidi.com. Although a lot of what I present in My Workshops is not written there, you can always spend even more time figuring out what else you need to know and keep your fingers crossed to search the internet to find intelligent information. If you take My Webcam Workshops, you can spend 90 minutes enjoying the condensed version of what I’ve written and more AND ask Me questions directly in real-time. Of course, you can always continue being as happy, successful, and satisfied with your Fetish situations doing what you’re already doing… Isn’t it wonderful to have the choice? More Info…

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AskMssDidi.comCurrently on Ask Mss Didi*

Releasing The Flying Monkeys: Balancing Karma & Retribution offers tips on how to rise above saboteurs and soar like an eagle! You-know-who, this one’s for you! ~wink

I recommend that you also check out The Difference Between Fetish and kink. Refer the people you encounter to this article and use these keys for ease in your Fetish experience. If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.

The Contents page of AskMssDidi.com has summaries of the articles for more comprehensive reading. Take advantage of My Gifts of Domain Maintenance Training Techniques for BetterFetish™!

Or take a Webcam Workshop for a condensed version of My Techniques that can be found on AskMssDidi.com.


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