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Mistress Marvels of March!

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Fulfill The Dream in 2016!

Private, Boutique Events
Are Quite Popular
Preparing For April Event Dates

Applications Accepted
for NEW Party Service Assistants for
April Domina Soirees & More


Bring on The Spring!

~ The Situation
~~> Upcoming Events
~~> Get Invited
~ How To Tips for submissives: First Contact
~ Webcam Workshops

~ ClassicFetish™ Resources
~ Stimulations


The Situation

As Always, announced to My Mailing List FIRST, I’ve rescheduled March Events due to a clerical error and the crappy attitude of the venue owners.  Mistakes can happen, but apologies are required when you screw up.  DON’T get a stink attitude with the person you’ve offended because they may just be someone like Me who TELLS My Associates of your heinous behavior.  My intention is to save other people with integrity and professional intentions from losses and disrespectful treatment that I’ve endured just by being truthful — My Karma.  That fact that these creatures are suffering a string of booking cancellations is their karma.

My Domina Soirees are Private, Boutique Events and because I design them with much attention, love, and care to match the right people and the right energies for the right dynamic of Fetish Fabulousness, they are quite popular!  So, of course, now everyone wants to attend.

This is why it is so important to follow instructions to observe the Security Requirements and recognize that My Events are not the any-and-everybody-can-pay-to-show-up, mish-mosh, conglomeration that is what most folks are accustomed to as “fetish” events.


March & Early April Events

The upcoming Domina Play Soirees are for small groups of Dominas with 1 to 3 submissive attendants. As always, Events are conveniently located in Midtown Manhattan and ALL applicants are carefully screened for participation. You do realize that this means that I give the time to actually communicate with each and every attendee and potential attendee, right?

The ONLY exception to this practice is IF you choose to for an event(s) that meets your preferences and fits within My Respect Zone (see below). I will not participate in anything that offends My Integrity.  Then, participants will be selected to fulfill the dynamics of your event.

WHEN

Domina Tea Time Play Soiree – EVENING CFNM Event
March 26, Saturday @ 7:00 PM11:00 PM

Domina Tea Time Play Soiree – EVENING CFNM Event
March 30, Wednesday @ 6:00 PM10:00 PM

Domina Tea Time Play Soiree – DAYTIME CFNM Event
April 1, Friday @ 1:00 PM5:00 PM

©Mss Didi* ~ PartyDomme.comDomina Play Soirees (see description below) are DommeSalon™ socializers where I bring a group of intelligent, talented Dommes together for community building, networking,  and a lucky sub or 2 (or 3) to serve Us.  These are not money-making events; they are designed for Us to meet people We can actually like in The Scene!  (And My Events are fundraisers for My Charities when appropriate.)

As described HERE, ALL attendees are required to adhere to strict security measures and ONLY those who do are invited to attend. ONLY confirmed attendees receive specific information about Events.

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Coming In April

I’ve been engaged to produce a Petite Grand Audience (a Grand Audience Event on a smaller, more intimate scale) in mid- to late April for a visiting submissive who is relocating to the New York City area.  Since he doesn’t want to be the only gentleman in the room, I will select honorable submissives to attend.  See how that works?  .


Opportunities for NEW submissives & FUN Assistants

Note: Several applicants have already been interviewed and are in the process of being matched for compatibility with specific groups of Dominas for Play Soirees. If I have not responded to your application, please be patient. If you have not followed specific rules (e.g., no nudity in photos), I will not respond to you at all and suggest that you try again, properly this time.

I regularly offer opportunities for cool people to experience the glories of My Domain and Events by offering their services to assist Me and My Guests. I am interested in “keepers” — people who will become part of the Fetish Family and be worthy of being adored — and this is the perfect chance to test the waters! These opportunities are NOT limited to submissives. Dominants, switches, whatevers are encouraged to apply as long as you can pay attention and follow instructions. And if I really like you, I may invite you to spend some time with Me in the sun-sea-sand! Soiree Assistants & submissives APPLY HERE (Dominas please see above).

I am still interviewing hardcore masochists for private and public performances, Mentee training sessions, and Play — of course! Play, Play, Play! This opportunity may include all-expense paid travel. Hardcore Masochists APPLY HERE


Webcam Workshops

Prepare for the Petite Grand Audience and a Grand Audience soon to come!

March 15, 7:45-9:45pm ~ The Superior submissive™
March 22, 7:45-9:45pm ~ Domina101™

right-arrowREMINDER: My Webcam Workshops and My Events are fundraisers for My Charities.x

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Why Take These Webcam Workshops?

Well, you don’t have to — you can always read everything I’ve graciously provided for free on AskMssDidi.com. Although a lot of what I present in My Workshops is not written there, you can always spend even more time figuring out what else you need to know and keep your fingers crossed to search the internet to find intelligent information. If you take My Webcam Workshops, you can spend 90 minutes enjoying the condensed version of what I’ve written and more AND ask Me questions directly in real-time. Of course, you can always continue being as happy, successful, and satisfied with your Fetish situations, doing what you’re already doing… Isn’t it wonderful to have the choice? More Info…

PartyDomme.comright-arrowAttend Workshops HERE

Be certain you’re on My Mailing List for other Workshop dates and other announcements.


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My recent interviews have prompted Me to generously offer a FREE section of The Superior submissive™ Webcam Workshop to alleviate a LOT of stress all the way around.  Read How-To Tips for submissives: First Contact and remember that Presentation is EVERYTHING.

I recommend that you also check out The Difference Between Fetish and kink. Refer the people you encounter to this article and use these keys for ease in your Fetish experience. If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.

The Contents page of AskMssDidi.com has summaries of the articles for more comprehensive reading. Take advantage of My Gifts of Domain Maintenance Training Techniques for BetterFetish™!

Or take a Webcam Workshop for a condensed version of My Techniques that can be found on AskMssDidi.com.


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ClassicFetish™ Resources

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Fetish With Friends February!

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My Current Events
March News & Event Dates Coming Soon!

Applications Accepted
for NEW Party Service Assistants for
March Domina Soirees & More


Play, Play, Play & More Play!

~ What’s Happening Now
~~> Upcoming Events
~~> Get Invited
~ The Launch of AskMssDidi.com

~ ClassicFetish™ Resources
~ Stimulations


The Launch of AskMssDidi.com

Can you BELIEVE THIS? I was actually contacted by an idiot-attorney claiming that I was in violation of plagiarizing his client’s work which was copied verbatim from MY Ask Mss Didi* blog! It gets better: his client had the audacity to be in the process of suing someone else who’d also copied My original writing from MY blog! (My attorney has advised Me to say nothing more on this matter at this time.)

What’s ridiculous is that all that is required is a request for permission to use My Work. That is standard practice for use of anyone’s work in just about every medium. It is also common courtesy — which continues to be a lost social skill as losers continue to breed and have NO appreciation for kindness and gifts. So now, I’ve taken the steps to protect My Work and punish offenders, of course.

ALL Ask Mss Didi* goodies are located on AskMssDidi.com!

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I’m a Domme, not your mom.


My Current Events

WHY

Recently, I received an email with complaints from a typical, turd-tard who (1) offers NOTHING – not even something slightly pretty to look at, and (2) is another one who is too lazy to read About My Events before contacting Me to show his inferiority:

Mss Didi, [Y]ou need to do events that people are interested in and on weekends… No one wants to fill out forms to attend events… You make it too hard for people to have fun… You’re not going to make any money that way… i want…

For the past decade, I have designed Fetish events for one purpose: to find the type of Fetishists that I WANT to associate and Play with and create a Private Fetish Club. My Events are fundraisers for My Charities, not income. Anyone who has ever actually attended any of My Events knows for certain that the quality of venue, food, and beverages that I provide could never yield a profit from the price of admission. So, anyone with a brain knows that most of My events are paid for from “My pockets” and sometimes, with contributions from My Fetish Family. This is how people with class give soirees. Admission serves to boost what I regularly contribute to My Charities. Understand?

Far too many folks don’t know how to give so they can’t appreciate how to receive. Compounding the problem is that too many folks are accustomed to the “common events” and don’t know how to appreciate Quality, either. This is why I say everywhere:

My events are not for everybody and certainly not for just anybody.

It’s no secret that I am not a fan of the commonly available, “fetish” (a.k.a. kink) events that seem to be all that is offered in NYC these days — and it annoys Me that My best Fetish fun is not in My beloved, home city. History has shown that when I’ve created unique events like SWIRL AfterWork Soirees with a casual dress code, suddenly everyone else held events with similar formats. How I create and produce events now requires much more attention and care than average event producers want to do (if they even can). I’m interested in Quality, not quantity. A whole lot of nothing is still nothing.

One of the reasons that I don’t attend the common events is that I don’t enjoy My Fetish indulgences:

  • with people who don’t share My interests;
  • with people who don’t have respect for the environment and The Scene;
  • where I cannot have a conversation over disjointed, loud music played by self-obsessed DJs;
  • in a free-for-all type of setting and in places where I don’t want My shoes to touch the floors — I’m adamant about a CLEAN environment; and
  • while being bored by the same-ol’-same-ol’ stuff and people (who usually never bother to gain a new skill) over and over again.

So, I create My own events to enjoy MY WAY ON MY TERMS. AND I offer assistance as a consultant and/or event designer to others who wish to create their own events on their terms. You may request My assistance to design an event to your liking. You may even suggest ideas for some Fetish Fun by a polite email with your thoughts. But NO WHINING will be tolerated — especially about MY Events.

WHAT

While the weather is cold and unpredictable, and while I’m traveling often, I am only having intimate, Domina Play Soirees for small groups of Dominas with 1 to 3 submissive attendants. Because I know Who We Are and the plethora of Our Talents, I’m not going to insult Us with subtandards (Read “submissive vs. substandard) to limit Our Enjoyments. ALL applicants are carefully screened for participation with the Exceptional Dominas I soiree with.

The ONLY exception to this practice is IF you choose to engage My Event Design skills for an event(s) that meets your preferences and fits within My Respect Zone (see below). I will not participate in anything that offends My Integrity.

WHEN

Domina Play Soiree – DAYTIME CFNM Event
February 6 @ 2:00 PM6:00 PM

Domina Play Soiree – EVENING CFNM Event
February 17 @ 6:00 PM10:00 PM

Domina Play Soirees are DommeSalon™ socializers where I bring a group of intelligent, talented Dommes together for community building, networking,  and a lucky sub or 2 to serve Us.  These are not money-making events; they are designed for Us to meet people We can actually like in The Scene!  (And My Events are fundraisers for My Charities when appropriate.)

I have 3 opportunities for NEW DOMINAS to join Us so that We may expand Our Domina Play Circle while enjoying submissive pleasures!

If You are a Domina who wishes to join Us, .

submissives who wish to join Us, read below.

SO FAR, 2 Domina Play Soiree Events are scheduled with 2 different groups of Dommes. I am enjoying the company of some Friends from Down Under who are My kind of Wild Women! More Play Soirees (working on one for early March — see below) may be announced to My Mailing List as they arise.

Coming In March

©Mss Didi* ~ PartyDomme.comI’ve been engaged to produce A Gentleman’s Domina Tea Time in early March for a visiting submissive who would like to meet for tea with select Dominas prior to a PlayDate that I’m organizing for him. See how that works?

Dominas who are interested in joining Us for Afternoon Tea and subsequent Play Soiree in early March, .


Opportunities for NEW submissives & FUN Assistants

Note: Several applicants have already been interviewed and are in the process of being matched for compatibility with specific groups of Dominas for Play Soirees. If I have not responded to your application, please be patient. If you have not followed specific rules (e.g., no nudity in photos), I will not respond to you at all and suggest that you try again, properly this time.

I regularly offer opportunities for cool people to experience the glories of My Domain and Events by offering their services to assist Me and My Guests. I am interested in “keepers” — people who will become part of the Fetish Family and be worthy of being adored — and this is the perfect chance to test the waters! These opportunities are NOT limited to submissives. Dominants, switches, whatevers are encouraged to apply as long as you can pay attention and follow instructions. And if I really like you, I may invite you to spend some time with Me in the sun-sea-sand! Soiree Assistants & submissives APPLY HERE (Dominas please see above).

I am still interviewing hardcore masochists for private and public performances, Mentee training sessions, and Play — of course! Play, Play, Play! This opportunity may include all-expense paid travel. Hardcore Masochists APPLY HERE


Webcam Workshops

Coming Soon!

right-arrowREMINDER: My Webcam Workshops and My Events are fundraisers for My Charities.x

Why Take These Webcam Workshops?

Well, you don’t have to — you can always read everything I’ve graciously provided for free on AskMssDidi.com. Although a lot of what I present in My Workshops is not written there, you can always spend even more time figuring out what else you need to know and keep your fingers crossed to search the internet to find intelligent information. If you take My Webcam Workshops, you can spend 90 minutes enjoying the condensed version of what I’ve written and more AND ask Me questions directly in real-time. Of course, you can always continue being as happy, successful, and satisfied with your Fetish situations doing what you’re already doing… Isn’t it wonderful to have the choice? More Info…

PartyDomme.comBe certain you’re on My Mailing List for other Workshop dates and other announcements.


Domina101™ © Mss Didi* ~ www.PartyDomme.comDomina101™ Mentoring Group in NYC & On The Web

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Releasing The Flying Monkeys: Balancing Karma & Retribution offers tips on how to rise above saboteurs and soar like an eagle! You-know-who, this one’s for you! ~wink

I recommend that you also check out The Difference Between Fetish and kink. Refer the people you encounter to this article and use these keys for ease in your Fetish experience. If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.

The Contents page of AskMssDidi.com has summaries of the articles for more comprehensive reading. Take advantage of My Gifts of Domain Maintenance Training Techniques for BetterFetish™!

Or take a Webcam Workshop for a condensed version of My Techniques that can be found on AskMssDidi.com.


Join My MAILING LIST

If you have not already done so, PLEASE take a moment to join My Mailing List here. You can also subscribe by RSS feed — see sidebar.


ClassicFetish™ Resources

See articles at the bottom of this post.

Fulfill The Dream in 2016!


Stimulations

EpicuresNYC Private Members Fetish Club

Enjoy Life!

Always MY Pleasure, Mss Didi*

Join My Mailing List

contact Mss Didi* Blackthorn

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Birthday Season ~ Outstanding October!

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Grand Audience “Speed Domming™” 10/22!
Choose Dates & Times for
Upcoming
Webcam Workshops & Events


It’s My BIRTHDAY SEASON!

~ Please Donate to My Birthday Charity
~ Grand Audience Soiree 10/22
~~~> Mixed Dominant/submissive Interviews
Webcam Workshops
~~~>Fetish Safety & 50 Shades of Foolishness
~~~>Domina101™ & The Superior submissive™

~~~>CHOOSE Dates/Times of Other Webcam Workshops
~ Domina101™ Mentoring Groups
~~~> Next Session: Finding & Creating Ideal subs
~ Ask Mss Didi*

~ ClassicFetish™ Resources


It’s Birthday Season!

To help Me have a Happy Birthday Season, please to bring clean water to people in places where water is a luxury.  Can you imagine not even having faucets for water to come from? Or having to travel (most of the time, walk) several miles to obtain drinkable water?  The fact that this is not your reality is something to add in counting your blessings every day! 

EVERY YEAR I give gifts TO others for My Birthday!  However, I have taken a good look at My Life and all that I have done and continue to do to make a positive mark in the Fetish Community and I have been feeling a bit unappreciated − on top of dealing with the ungrateful-h8tefuls on a regular basis while creating events that NO ONE ELSE COMES CLOSE TO IN QUALITY AND CREATIVITY.  So, I advise you to take advantage of what I’ve already created — while I’m still feeling generous and offering My Wisdom and Experience for FREE.

And notice that I never ask for anything for Myself for My Birthday; I always ask for My Charities.  What do you do to celebrate your Gift of Life?  Again, count your blessings!

The winners of the submissive Contest have been chosen and while I’d like to say thank you to everyone who entered, I won’t…  Can you believe the too-many applicants who actually made demands on how they would serve Me and My Associates?  Of course you can because there is a desperate NEED for Domina101™ and The Superior subissive™ Workshops! So, you you know what?  I chose MY Fetish of fit, healthy, respectful, intelligent, and cooperative subs for the contest winners!

Wouldn’t you like subs like that, too? Are you a sub who wants to be appreciated? Then you have 2 choices: Attend GRAND AUDIENCE 10/22 and/or choose the dates that work for you for Webcam Workshops and .  BE a part of BetterFetish™ by being the example of BETTER Quality for others to follow.

~ Be the change that you wish to see in the world. — Mahatma Gandhi


Grand Audience “Speed Domming™” Soiree in Midtown Manhattan!

For serious Dominants and submissives who are interested in meeting a variety of potential matches

Mixed Dominants & mixed submissives 10/22, 6-10pm $25

PartyDomme.comInterviews, Chef-Catered Hors d’oevres & Bubbly Beverages Included

Due to the high-profile situations of some of Our Club Members, We have extremely STRICT Invitation Rules that are for everyone’s safety and protection from creepazoids. 

Think of speed-dating, but for Quality Dominants and subs to meet comfortably with class! I call it, “Speed-Domming™!”

By invitation only, enjoy an event with 1-to-1 interviews, hors d’oeuvres & mellow beverages, conversation, and perhaps, a bit of Play in a lovely, comfortable, private environment.

The intimidation factor is alleviated by beauty, comfort, and amity.

Grand Audience is designed for a few, Elite Dominants to gather in an intimate, clean, beautiful, private salon to interview lucky submissives for REAL service. After the interviews, the fun will ensue!

By Application Only.

right-arrow CInvitation Applications – space is limited

10/22 Dominants

10/22 submissives


Webcam Workshops

right-arrowREMINDER: My Webcam Workshops and My Events are fundraisers for My Charities.x

NOTE: Workshops will resume after My Birthday celebrations!

50 Shades of Foolishness & Fetish Safety!

Special Opportunity: Choose a Webcam Workshop & Time that works for you!

Learn what you need to combat the dangerous stupidity of “50 Shades-ing.” Already there have been crackdowns on Our events and re-zoning of communities where We rendezvous. There have been a lot of other annoyances and infringements on Our liberties. Now that an entirely different strata of people have flocked to be easily, thoughtlessly influenced, common sense is thrown under the bus and the law is NOT on your side. This Workshop is the What To Do WHEN… Don’t be sorry, be prepared.

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How You Benefit from My Workshops

Do you know about the about the 3 types of Fetish folks: fronters, punters, and Artists? Knowing the difference can literally save your life.

Even IF you REALLY DO have what you want, give yourself the opportunity to acquire new perspectives to learn what Y/you need to know to make your fantasies Fetish Realities.

And if you don’t have what you REALLY want, this is your opportunity to get it.

All Webcam Workshops are $25, 2 hours, and include a lecture and Q&A. Privacy assured from checkout and throughout each event.

Make it easy on yourself. What do you have to lose — really think about that? And you’ll contribute to My Charities while gifting yourself.

NOTE: if you’re having a ca$h-flow problem, contact Me with your useful skills and talents (NOT kinks).

Read more about How You Benefit…

~~~> Workshops for YOUR Private Group Available

~~~> Special Opportunity: Choose a Webcam Workshop & Time that works for you!

DATES TO BE ANNOUNCED:

©Mss Didi* ~ PartyDomme.com

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Be certain you’re on My Mailing List for other Workshop dates and other announcements.


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NEW:

Fakers-Shakers-Takers-Noise-Makers.  I devised the term, “fakers-shakers-takers-noise-makers” to refer to “time-wasters” who are part of the confusion of the mainstream’s foray into The Scene. Knowing the signs of “wasters” prevents acts of vampirism on Our precious energies.

I recommend that you also check out The Difference Between Fetish and kink. Refer the people you encounter to this article and use these keys for ease in your Fetish experience. If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.

The Contents page of AskMssDidi.com has summaries of the articles for more comprehensive reading. Take advantage of My Gifts of Domain Maintenance Training Techniques for BetterFetish™!


Join My MAILING LIST

If you have not already done so, PLEASE take a moment to join My Mailing List here. You can also subscribe by RSS feed — see sidebar.


Classic Fetish™ Resources

See articles at the bottom of this post.

Have a BetterFetish™ Scene in 2015!


Stimulations

Enjoy Life!

Always MY Pleasure, Mss Didi*

Join My Mailing List

contact Mss Didi* Blackthorn

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