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"I am on a Mission to restore Fetish
to its rightful place of respect, love, and personal evolution
for those of Us who are REAL Fetishists."
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Putting The "ADULT" Back
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The recent news of health
hazards and criminal, non-consensual offenses at "fetish" events should
be a wake-up scream for the Community. Why is
the state of The Scene today deplorable? Because:
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people choose to
remain silent and permit offenders to continue with
increasingly, worsening actions instead of calling them on
bad behaviors;
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people "don't want
to get involved" but ARE involved by NOT taking action; and
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people are quick
to attack anyone who DOES speak up and alert the Community
for the safety of others. Instead, people choose to
make the "whistle blower" wrong by saying s/he should not
"air dirty laundry." This is the same type of offense
as telling a rape victim that s/he should not have been
walking down that street (or attended that
party) and who cry the loudest at the funerals of victims
who have been killed by the same stalkers the victims
complained to them about.
How is this safe?
How is this sane?
I do NOT consent to
being put at risk because people do not want to be responsible
to and for The Scene they want to indulge in.
I realize that I have been so very fortunate ~ and worthy ~ to have spent
the VAST majority of My Life in the company of REAL Fetishists with true
talent, respect, integrity, and who offered value to The Scene.
They understood that We are the creators and progenitors of what makes
Fetish an Art versus an outlet for sleaze. It has only been within
the last decade that I have grown increasingly disgusted with the lack
of all of the above AND basic, home training by creatures that abominate
a part of My Life that I cherish.
Therefore, I
invite you to bring the ADULT back to adult entertainment.
If YOU do not stay silent in the shadows, YOU may be the reason that the
next newbie who attends an event is NOT raped. YOU may be the
reason that someone's family is NOT
endangered by an idiotic, egomaniac's need for attention.
YOU may be the reason that We can effectively bring responsibility,
respect, and integrity back to The Scene so that it can once again be as
fulfilling as YOU want it to be for yourself and others. Demand
better and contribute to
BetterFetish™.
If you are not a part of the solution, you
are a part of the problem.
I AM A PART OF THE SOLUTION.
Join Me.
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DEFINITELY READ:
You Won't Like My Events
If...
Because I
am actually LIVING a True Fetish Lifestyle, I am not confused to
equate ugly behavior with Dominance and the concept of Fetish.
Money is
not My god; I create events to invite people to experience
BetterFetish™
by creating a SAFE & SANE space to BE their bests with others
who do the same. This is why there is NEVER a safety issue at
any of My events and there never will be.
Cleanliness is also
paramount.
It is My
habit to provide a fantastic opportunity for a few cool
Fetishists (with good manners and presentation) to assist at My
events. I have met some of the most wonderful people who have
become part of the SWIRL Family and who are now part of My
Private Soiree Circle, too!
So, again
I offer the opportunity to assist Me at
My
SWIRL
ClassicFetish™
After-Work Play Party & Annual NYC Fetish Charity Fundraiser on
Thursday, May 31st from 6pm to Midnight!
What
makes service to Me at My Events so fabulous? 1 hour on duty, 1
hour off duty so you have time to commune and Play!
Duties will include clean-up, bartending, setup and
break down, so your commitment will be for the ENTIRE evening. I
promise to have you on your way home (if that's where you choose
to go) by 12:30AM. (Arrangements may be made if you really can't
stay til Midnight.)
**PAY ATTENTION:**
BE WARNED:
Do NOT
take My generosity lightly and mistake My kindness for
weakness. Do not commit and then fail to show up - you will NOT
enjoy the punishment you cause to yourself and I WILL not keep
your bad behavior silently in the shadows. The problem with so
much of the negativity and dangers in The Scene today are
because people are permitted their atrocious behaviors because
no one makes offenders accountable nor warns the rest of Us
about them. I AM NOT THAT PERSON.
IF YOU ARE NOT A PART OF THE SOLUTION, YOU ARE A PART OF THE
PROBLEM. So, don't start none, won't be
none.
**PAY
ATTENTION:**
If
interested, contact Me DIRECTLY at
with 5/31 PARTY ASSISTANT
in the Subject Line of your email and
send no
later than 5/28.
If We are
mutually pleased, you may be able to attend My future events
and/or private soirees as My Special Guest with a friend - just
like the past assistants who responded to My previous
opportunities ARE doing!
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I
MISS what
was once the New York City Fetish Marathon. My habit
during this season is to provide a
charity fundraiser
event for REAL Fetishists to have the opportunity to meet
each other in a civilized, elegant, and comfortable
environment where you can actually hear each other
in conversation. Each year for this event, I
offer a great service to The Community and permit Us
to be of service to a worthy organization.
See below for the GREAT NEWS from My last charity
fundraiser!
SWIRL
is on THURSDAY, MAY 31st!
Click HERE to meet the
SWIRL
Divas
who will be in attendance! I will announce
any further plans as soon as I've made them!
Be first to be alerted.
Seriously:
SWIRL
and My other
events ARE all-inclusive; housed in beautiful,
clean, PRIVATE, conveniently located venues
(that
everyone wants to use after I do);
and I always make sure you meet people to have fun
with. I really do provide the BEST deals in
town!
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GREAT
NEWS from My Birthday 2011 Charity Fundraiser!
The rig We funded drilled its first well!
SEE VIDEO. Some of Us wonderful
people fundraised, donated, and attended My Birthday
Party -- all to help
CharityWater.org raise money for two new
drilling rigs in Tigray, Ethiopia. The
first of the two rigs broke ground drilling its
first well in Merara Village on February 28, 2012.
Hours into the drill, it hit a massive aquifer of
pure ground water. And that's just the
beginning! Each rig will go on to drill 80 new
wells, and together they'll change 80,000 lives --
every single
year for the next 15 years. Although
We've helped 1,600 communities and more than 600,000
people here already, two million people in this
region are still waiting for clean water. We need to
go faster.
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In this section, I offer tips to maintaining One's integrity for One's
ultimate happiness and comfort. I encourage you to be inspired to
create your success and happiness now!
Confusing
Dominance for bullying
© March 2011
Recently, I had yet another
typically boring incident of someone mistaking My actions to be in line with
the nefarious intentions they have in their own actions. If I make a
mistake, I WILL apologize. Just tell Me - don't address Me the way one
should address their insidiously-ill-mannered-spawn. Though the person’s
manner should have been more polite, I quickly apologized and the cow
replied back to Me as if she were speaking to a humiliation-sub. Nothing
she has serves Me in any way; I was being gracious by contributing to her
little, online forum in the first place.
Then, one of
My Domina101™ Attendees contacted Me with a similar problem. So,
I’m having a glorious day and I’ve decided to share the
Domina101™ Tip that I gave to Her:
You have to remember to
focus first on
Who You Are.
These silly creatures out here are so confused by what it means to be
Dominant/submissive that they just exhibit bad behavior which reflects their
lack of self-love – and they are too ignorant to know it.
Being a Dominant first and
foremost requires self-control and personal responsibility. Too many “wanna-doms”
think that to treat people with humiliation at any and every opportunity
means being “in control.” This is always a set up for what one wishes one
coulda-woulda-shoulda done when they come across a True Dominant who
actually has a Domain and not just a delusion – like moderating an online
group as the extent of one’s experience. For too many cybercreeps, the
online “community” is all they have to pretend that they are what they
present themselves to be. This is not only pathetic and sad, but a
testament to how little they actually think of themselves to be too afraid
to venture out into the Real World with those of Us who ARE walking Our
talk.
Bullies are cowards which
are, in My opinion, down there with the lowest of life forms. A coward
always makes everything and everyone
a
reason for why they are failures.
They are first to criticize what you have created while having created
nothing of their own. They are first to berate you for making a mistake as
if they have never, ever made even one. They do not know how to give
compliments because they recognize and despise their lack of self –value.
They do not know how to accept apologies because they cannot accept their
own fallibility. Somehow, they believe they are perfect and that the world
offends them by not showing up according to their limited ability, from even
more limited experience, to think that it should be. These are the same
people who want to dictate
exactly how You should be
Dominant in Your Domain while knowing absolutely nothing about You, Your
life, Your
Reality,
etc. It is this type of "little
world of domination" mentality that annoys those of Us who are living in the
Real World of Owning One's Domain.
I have
recently had to post
You
Won't Like My Events If...
as a cordial warning to "space
invaders" with this same bullying-distortion of what Dominance is. If one
has to bully, one is a coward, not a Domme.
A True Dominant knows that She does not lose anything by showing respect,
gratitude, and graciousness without waiting for an invitation to do so.
She can do this because She loves Herself, is responsible for Her actions,
maintains Her Domain, and is not threatened by how other people do things in
theirs. Most importantly, A True Dominant has no need to even attempt to
enter someone else’s Realm and impose anything on it.
The beauty,
as William Shakespeare said, is that
“Cowards
die many times before their deaths; The valiant never taste of death but
once.” Julius Ceasar, Act 2, Scene II.
Sadist that I am, I take much pleasure in knowing that they repeatedly cause
their own suffering by avoiding personal responsibility! And then, I wish
them well as long as they are far away from Me and Mine.
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It's astonishing how many emails I receive thanking Me for warning
about offenders to Our Scene. While I appreciate people offering
their acclamations for Me, I would much prefer that they express such gratitude
as quickly and easily as they jump to criticize Me on the revolting
"fetish community" website(s). It's disgusting how easily people
will rush to choose to present themselves in the lowest forms rather
than publicly express themselves on higher levels.
Keeping with this Newsletter's theme of
personal responsibility, below
are 2 excerpts from recent additions to My
Ask Mistress Didi*
archives:
Consider The Source
October 1, 2010
Q: Dear
Mistress Didi,
You
witnessed an incident that should not have happened. [name
omitted] offended me and I didn't do anything to cause him to be
so rude. I still think I did the right thing to roll my eyes
and walk away, but the whole thing bothers me. What is the best
way for me to handle this? Thanks, G
My fabulous Grandmother
always said: "Consider the source" whenever someone did
something that disrupted My flow. That was some of the
best advice that She ever gave Me ~ and She gave Me so
much great advice!
How To Use This Great
Advice:
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Check In first to see what's going on
with you that is causing you to be disturbed by
someone's actions;
- Choose what you
want to do. In other words, choose to
respond rather than react. Give yourself the
power in the situation and choose your greatest
well-being;
- Clearly recognize
the "quality of being" that the person who has
annoyed you is putting forth. Translation: how
is this person showing up? as a cool individual who
may have made a mistake? as a complete jerk?; and
- Most importantly,
forgive them. Whether or not a person
intends to disrupt your peaceful flow, it is YOUR
responsibility that your flow is disrupted.
Forgiving them frees YOU from any further care for
or about them.
As We all know, there are
too many lazy individuals who take the slimy way out and
operate from the lowest levels of consciousness and
personal responsibility. It is easier for you, in your
best interests, to pity them for making self-defeating
choices; there can never be true happiness when you
choose to be less than your best.
If the saying:
There is only fear or love
is true, then these offenders are
seriously lacking love in their lives - not only love
from others, but self-love. That makes them pathetic
and having compassion for them also frees you from
further concern and bother because you can choose what
you want to do from a place of clarity.
So, if you consider the
source of the aggravation, you do yourself a great
service by releasing all attachment to that
aggravation. I find that allowing Myself to have pity
on, but not to tolerate or excuse offenders, keeps Me
able to maintain My Fabulous Flow. Yes, this requires a
bit of discipline, but that is the entire point of
Mastery ~ which always begins and ends with Mastery of
The Self.
Honing your skill
to recognize behavior that stems from a lack of
self-love and awareness will strengthen your ability to
Consider The Source. I offer
Domme vs. dumme and
submissive vs.
substandard.
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Outing or
Protecting?
August 22, 2012
Q: Dear
Mistress Didi,
Why is some
guy on [social site] contacting me by direct message, claiming
that You threw him out of Your party, and to stay away from Your
events and You? - perturbed
Dear perturbed,As
anyone who is familiar with Me should know by now, I
have NO tolerance for bad behavior. This is why I
recently ejected a troll from a party and posted
You Won't Like My Events If...
And I have been VERY
generous in how I've handled his sad, little creature.
I didn't have to "out" him; he did it himself with
ludicrous attempts to destroy My Domain while
unwittingly serving Me better than if I'd commanded him
to serve!
If you didn't know, this
creep contacted everyone in his "friends" list on a
networking site to warn them that I "threw [him] out for
singing and talking to a beautiful woman." he continues
to
stalk Me by contacting EVERYONE who responds
to Me on forum posts with his nonsense (if only he'd
put half that effort into becoming a better person).
Since birds of a feather flock together, folks who would
believe a story like his are too stupid to attend any of
My events in the first place. So, while I believe that
creatures like him are the reason that birth control
should be free and sterilization mandatory, I couldn't
pay for better
service to My Purpose (not that I would have to)!
The only sad things from
this situation are that the 5 people who complained
about him at the party had to endure him in the
first place and that the "beautiful woman" was a newbie
and has told Me that she is now too "creeped out" to
attend any fetish events for a while.
This is a perfect example of how a distasteful
individual is free to offend Us and discourage others
from
exploring the Beauties of The Fetish Lifestyle because
no one has alerted the Community to his repugnance - and
how he even made it into My event at all.
I accept full responsibility for not
following My instincts - which I WILL do from now on -
to deny him admission when he arrived in full, creepy
fashion. If being disrespectful and
"turditudinous" (My new vocabulary word) are
his fetish, there are plenty of other events for him and
his kind to indulge in.
I will not allow admission to My Events to anyone who
does not show the proper respect from the moment they
encounter My Domain. Period. I love and respect My
Guests and will do everything to ensure Our good times!
Lately, I feel I am
unique in that money is not My god; nor do I produce
events for the sole purpose of making money. I design
events for the enjoyment of communing with like minds
and like energies. When someone offends Me and Mine, I
believe it is My duty to alert The Community to prevent
others from being disrespected and, perhaps, harmed by
the offender. If more people were responsible to Our
Community and to the people who trust Us, and if more
people were brave enough to stand up for what's right
against wrong-doers, participating in Our Community
would actually be more pleasant instead of a constant
flow of dealing with situations where one hopes to avoid
having to navigate around "gruesomes."
I respect The Fetish
Lifestyle and I believe in having integrity in The
Scene. Sadly, far too many do not agree with having
honorable intentions and participate in lying, thieving,
maligning, and attempts to outright sabotage not only Me
and Mine, but many others who make contributions to the
ability for Us to enjoy Our Lifestyles. Eventually, the
barbarians begin to fight amongst themselves in their
quests to build monopolies as they run out of people to
screw over. You see this happen all the time.
One of the many reasons that
"certain" people dislike Me (aside from the obvious
jealousies and, that under no circumstances, do I permit
them to have free reign of My Domain) is that
I WILL TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT
their HEINOUS OFFENSES - and anyone
who has ever encountered them will easily recognize
Truth. I also ensure that I have proof to back up My
statements. My motto is
Don't start none, won't be none; I finish it.
Over the years, I have
received "flack" from people who think that I should
keep incidents of bad behavior between Me and the
offenders to Myself - probably, because telling others
threatens their safety zones for exposure of their own
bad behaviors. Fortunately, I am clear that
I will continue to maintain circumstances for the utmost
safety in My Domain and protect My guests as a good
Hostess should.
Unfortunately, covert and
disreputable habits are what is to be expected as the
norm these days (and this is one reason why people are
rioting on Wall Street). To permit atrocities to go
unpunished by remaining silent only contributes to more
atrocious behavior in the future. I maintain that,
If you're not a part of the solution, you are a part of
the problem.
Experience has taught Me that exposure (and punishment)
of offenders is the best way to maintain the integrity
of one's Domain and protect the people you care about.
So, take My commitment to
excellence as an invitation to enjoy the safety of My
Events and My Domain with intelligent people who have
respect, class, and integrity. And take this as a
warning, if you are a troll in any way. My
responsibility is to enjoying The Best We Can Be and I
will be responsible to Our Community even if others are
not.
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If you have a question that has NOT
already been addressed, you may
Ask Mistress Didi*.
Remember your manners...
I'm a Domme, not your mom.
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I offer you the advantage of
My
Generous Givings. Do indulge and share:
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I have compiled
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where you can find wonderful info, fun-fetish
tidbits, and a variety of tips from Me.
Check it out!
~ Kindly refer people to
The Mistress Didi*s Articles
which include The Importance of Rituals & Protocols, Domme
vs. dumme, and submissive vs. substandard,
Easy Wig Care Tips & more!
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My Free eBook:
How
To Properly
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is an effort to improve opportunities for submissives to meet
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excellent resource for Dominants to assist prospective
submissives and those We meet on the roads in Our Fetish
Journeys. Download your "FreeView"
and by all means, SHARE!!! Pass it around!
Contact Me if you would like to obtain the Full
Version.
I encourage more
REAL Dominants to offer training to those who present substandard
behaviors to improve the state of The Scene and restore its
tenets of respect and beauty.

~ PLEASE
refer folks to
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Frankensteinish-clunking by the people wearing them!
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My Webcam Workshops:
In preparation for private, semi-private, and
group
ClassicFetish™ Workshops
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webcam, am in the process of testing various web
conferencing programs. While I am doing this, I will
conduct a few Workshops for a
small, $10
donation to one of
My Charities!
This is your opportunity to be charitable while gaining valuable
knowledge! Space will be extremely limited, so if you
would like to take part during My test drives,
click here and follow instructions.
Participation will be on a first-come, first-served basis.
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In case you're new here or haven't
figured it out, the quotes that I choose
always represent the theme of the current issue.
This Issue's Theme is about
owning and maintaining unwavering integrity.
"I
do get called a bitch quite often. What I do NOT get called is pushover,
stupid, sweetheart, dear, or doormat. Works for me."
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Rebecca M.
"Don’t
f--k with my reality. I’d rather know an ugly truth than be mislead by a
pretty lie. Just lay it on out there, say what you mean
and don’t paint the turds."
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HBI Member
MisTre
"Remember
always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have the
obligation to be one. You cannot make any useful contributions in life
unless you do that."
~
Eleanore Roosevelt
"If
you think you are too small to have an impact,
try going to bed with a mosquito."
~
Anita
Roddick
"I'd
rather be despised for my character than liked for my lack of it."
~
Rebecca J.
"When
kicking the unworthy to the curb, kick correctly lest they bounce back to
you."
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HBI Member Karen H.
"BI.T.C.H.
= Being In Total Control of HerSelf."
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One of Mistress Didi*s Mottos
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We are Sassy Bitches.
We stand up for
ourselves, each other and those we love.
We are strong.
We know exactly what we
want and how we want it.
We communicate in a
confident, charming, bottom line type of way no
matter the venue.
With our families,
friends, co-workers, enemies and lovers.
We are outspoken and
determined.
Communicating
effectively is an art and we’ve worked hard to
master this ability.
When people don’t like
what we have to say or are insulting, we aren’t
intimidated into doing something we don’t want to
do.
We don’t lie down and
take abuse, disrespect or nonsense from anyone. We
either call them on it or refuse to engage in it.
We take care of
ourselves. We take that time because when we are
happy, we can make everyone else happy! It takes
courage to own our Sassy Feminine Bitch in our world
today.
And we over flow with
courage.
We embrace our unique
beauty and talents.
Excuses bore us. Action
turns us on!
We stand up and fight
for the women who haven’t seen their power yet.
And to anyone who tries
to diffuse our inner flames, our burning desires and
luscious beauty?
We say bring it.
Because with a smile and
the flair of a Goddess we will watch them fail or
give up and join our Rebellion.
And we’ll welcome them
with a sassy smile and open arms.
We are Sassy
Bitches. Enjoy us Purr.
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"Jealousy
is not only a waste of time, but a waste of time to love yourself."
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Mistress Didi*
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